Being able to read thinking and have an insight into peoples’ behaviour is an advantage when it comes to entrepreneurial life. Some find building relationships easier than others; but regardless of your ability, developing this skill is important, requires practice and some insight into behavioural theory…
In life, we typically surround ourselves with people like ourselves. This necessarily limits our learning. Hitchhiking, much like business however, forces us to meet and get on with different people; and whilst I didn’t realise it at the time, experience on the road taught me invaluable lessons that helped make business life easier.
Reading people and situations
Getting on with people in a car meant I travelled further. The questioning and listening strategy (highlighted in the previous article) typically worked well, but it didn’t take long to tune into people who didn’t want to chat and/or reveal information. Such situations taught me how to deal with silence.
Then there were people who would happily talk but seemed to take no interest in me. The journey was memorable for the monologue. And occasionally, I would get in a vehicle to be confronted by someone who was very strident with their opinions and seemingly sought an argument.
But how do you draw applicable meaning from these experiences?
In the nineties, a UK organisation (The Husthwaite Group) conducted extensive research into buying behaviour and as a result devised a behavioural model based on peoples’ levels of assertiveness and responsiveness (see diagram 1).
The findings made for interesting reading that not only concurred with my experience of working with people in business but also made sense of the behaviour of people I had met on the road.
The model divided people into 4 groups: Analysts; Drivers; Amiables; and Expressives each of which have their own behavioural characteristics based on levels of assertiveness and responsiveness.
Assertive people are confident and know what they want. They put forward opinions and listen to others. Conflict is not a problem and they will happily argue their case. People who are highly assertive can come over as aggressive (think about Alan Sugar). In contrast, people who lack assertiveness tend to focus more on the detail, are typically passive and others can take advantage.
Responsiveness is the extent to which people respond to us and our questions. Some people are very responsive and give lots of information about themselves (Amiables). Others are less willing or unable to respond in this way (Analysts).
We are all different and few of us fit precisely into the model because our behaviour changes depending on circumstances. But the value of this research-based theory however, is that it helps us to understand ourselves as well as other people. Used intelligently and regularly, this modelling helps us to nurture business relationships and understand people who are different to ourselves.
Hitchhiking taught me the value of reflecting the behaviour of the person I was with. The Husthwaite research reached the same conclusion about mirroring behaviour but takes this notion further because the model produces results in a meaningful manner.
As an outgoing person I am happy to voice my opinions and I like to talk with people – which puts me squarely in the ‘Expressive’ box’. However, when I recognise I am working with ‘analysts’, ‘amiables’ or ‘drivers’ I know I must alter my behaviour to get the very best out of them and the meeting.
So what is your dominant behaviour and how might you use the theory to better get on with others? With practice you can use this insight to have a much stronger influence on the outcome of events.
Key Learning Points: Meeting different people expands our comfort zone and improves our ability to get on with people not like ourselves. Use experience and the theoretical model to understand behaviour and develop stronger business relationships.